I had a friend in my younger years ( early 20′s) that had to have a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day. It didn’t matter if they just met two days ago when V-Day dawned with love and rainbows she would declare her love for him, buy expensive gifts, and go way over the top. One time I asked her why and she said “Who wants to be alone on Valentine’s Day?” So you would rather fake it than be single? It sounded sad to me, really it did. Being single is nothing to be ashamed of and being single on Valentine’s Day is not the end of the world. If you read my Anti-Valentine’s Day post know I really do not care for Valentine’s Day however I do love S.A.D ( Singles Awareness Day). I mean who doesn’t love a holiday where you get to celebrate how awesome you are? The best part? You don’t have to celebrate alone! Get some friends together and really liven up the town! S.A.D can be celebrated today, tomorrow, or on the 15th. That is another great part, society doesn’t dictate when you celebrate!
Have a Pot Luck with your other Single Friends- Let’s face it most restaurants are having a couples menu with everything coming in two. How about having a pot luck just for “you”. Seriously, invite your friends to make their favorite dish, something that is important to them. Everyone brings their dish to the party and not only do you get to try something new you get to spend the evening with good friends. Make sure to have plenty of plates, napkins, silverware, drinks, and NO ICE CREAM! This is not a pity party, go for the Creme Brulee!
Go to that Gourmet Restaurant You Have Been Dying to Try- Don’t feel like having dinner at home? Go out! Go to that expensive place that you keep saying you will go to when you have a date worthy enough to be seen there. Girl you are worthy enough on your own. Don’t have the money, then make something gourmet yourself. Check out this site for some easy and amazing gourmet meals.
Do Random Acts of Kindness- Check out my 52 Random Acts of Kindness post for ideas and then do them. Buy some cheesy Valentine cards at the Dollar Store and hand them out to strangers. Hold the door for someone, buy flowers and hand them out to random people, or buy a few bags of chocolate and make someones day extra special! We never know what battle a person may be fighting and you doing that act of kindness may be exactly what they needed.
Go Out! Go Out! Go Out!- Don’t spend the night home, wallowing in sadness. Go out to a club, the movies, or buy shoes. By getting out and doing something productive you are showing not the world, but yourself that it is okay being single! Worried about those dreaded PDA’s that are bound to happen? Just yell at them to get a room and keep going. Because 9 times out of 10, those two kissy, feely people will be fighting tomorrow and you will still be single and have an amazing pair of shoes!
Spend Valentine’s Day with Johnny Depp, Richard Gere, or whatever celebrity you are crushing on- I know that me saying it is easier than doing it and going out may just not be the best thing for you and being with friends just makes you cringe. It’s okay, this is your day and you can celebrate it how you want. If you are determined to be alone then I would suggest you get some popcorn, pizza, ice cream, and a movie starring your celebrity crush. It doesn’t have to be a gushy romantic movie, it can be a comedy, drama, or action film. I love watching movies and this sounds like a perfect night out for me.
Single Mom’s can celebrate too!- Can’t go out because you don’t have a sitter? Can’t spend the evening watching movies, etc because you have dinner to make, kids to bathe, and bedtime coming? Why not celebrate with the reason you breathe? Your kids. Use this opportunity to show your kids it is okay to be single and it is okay to celebrate yourself! Have dinner together, make a card that says why you are awesome, or let them have dessert before dinner! It is not about what you do, it is about being together. My girls know exactly how I feel about Valentine’s Day and they also know I don’t need a man (or woman) to make everything okay. They will tell you that because of my example they don’t feel the need to grab a boyfriend right off the bat and know they can be strong, independent women on their own.
Do I get lonely? Of course I do, I am human after all. There are times in my life when I wish that I had someone to spend time with, someone that wanted me for me. But I don’t dwell on it. I have married friends and when I hear about their fights or how they can’t do something because the hubs ( or wifey) won’t let them, I look up and say “Thank God I am Single!” Because I can do what I want, when I want it. I have people who love me and in the end isn’t that what Valentine’s Day is about? Love one another and love yourself because in the end, that is all you have.
However if you are still sad and depressed about being alone, watch this video. This song always lifts me up and makes me feel powerful!
